In Support of "Honoring Our Husband"

I just clicked over to a blog post about this topic and found, surprising to me, that this is "controversial topic". I admit to confusion.

My husband lifts me up- 

He tells me I'm pretty (I am decidedly not, but that is okay- he really truly believes I am and that is good enough for me!!).

He asks me if he can pick up anything from the grocery store on his way home from work, he grocery shops (how can I not love a man who grocery shops!).

He "dates" me! Like once a week he opens the car door for me, takes me to restaurant, sits across the table from and acts like I am his entire world.

He brings me flowers and he buys me cards (sometimes just to say "I love you").

He gets up every.single.morning. at 5 a.m. and works his bloody a@$ off all day long to support our family.

He listens to me, he spends time with me, he even recently offered to watch the entire Pride and Prejudice mini series with me (with all boys left at home, I'm feeling in need of some relief from super hero movies!)...

This man appreciates me.

I cannot imagine that anyone would give him a hard time for being a man who chooses to love his wife and appreciate her in the ways he wants to. And if he encouraged other men to find ways to appreciate their wives, I hope no one would think that is archaic.

The suggestions that were made for showing appreciation (honor) to our husbands were: 

  • Dress attractively
  • Take care of my personal appearance
  • Fix his favorite foods
  • Build him up, rather than tear him down
  • Make our home a pleasant place to be
  • Spend time with him
  • Pray with him
Here's my take on it: 

My husband actually has zero expectations. 

 But I know he loves our bed to be made. 9 days out of 10 I make it. Just because it makes him happy. 

He HATES unloading the dishwasher- if I don't do it, I request that one of my boys do. And I tell them- it will make dad happy if it is unloaded. 

Sometimes I light a candle and put on "love songs radio" on Pandora before he my husband gets home. Then, even when the house is a mess, he doesn't really notice. ;) 

I try to remember to tell him how much I really truly do appreciate him. He is willing to go out and slay dragons all day long so that I can stay home and school our children. 

Taking care of my appearance looks more like just brushing my teeth and making sure there is no baby snot on my shirt (depending on the day, it is a real possibility ;)). 

I'll add in- laugh with your husband. Seriously. Laugh with him, at him (in a good natured way), ... find the humor in everyday life. If life is too serious at the moment, find a funny movie. Laughing until you cry is good for a marriage. This may not seem to fit with "honor" your husband, but life is tough. You will build him up by inserting some levity in to the situation. 

Kiss. Yes, kiss. Just a suggestion here, but when your husband gets home from work, give him a serious "I love you and you are wonderful" kiss. Even if you feel yucky and overwhelmed. It has something do with endorphins and such, and it really does start the evening out right. 

If it be old-fashioned, so be it! Finding ways to "honor", "appreciate", or "build up" your husband will serve your marriage and your family well. 




Comments

  1. PattyFebruary 23, 2016 at 6:26 AM

    Laurie, this is so beautiful. Truly beautiful! This is a great post for so many others. You have such a lovely family and they (the grandkids) also look up to the two of you as very important role models in their lives.

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